ConflictReasons for conflict:
1. unclear or unexpressed expectations
2. differing expectations
3. cultural differences (usually religious in nature)
4. fear of resource depletion (cookie jar and french toast example)
conflict relies on relationships:
1. exchange relationships
2. communal relationships
more likely to reduce conflict when there is a possibility of a reward
That is once we are certain of the regard of another we are less likely to
See them as powerful (you have to say that you are my mom). We seek out reward *gains*. By the same token, a loved one has great potential as a punisher.
We react more positively to strangers than to our friends - more potential rewards. Relation to attractiveness. Secure people are likely to seek out "handsome" people and the insecure are likely to seek out less attractive people. The self worth theory is in direct correlation to conflict reduction
When there is a lack of modeled behavior in the reduction of conflict, abuse is likely (page 152 Social Animal)
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